A heart-broken friend of mine was lamenting in pain; ''Stupid Cupid!!, Love is a myth; pointless, painful and overrated.''
Cupid, i believe, is the most hated celestial being. He seems misguided and mischievous. Sometimes he shoots only one of individuals to be paired, sometimes he shoots seemingly a wrong pair. Sometimes he shoots one person deep and merely pokes the other! Lol. Funny analysis but seeminly true.
i dont believe Cupid is misguided or stupid; or responsible for broken hearts.
its the individuals who have false unrealistic expectations, ego problems, insecurity issues, shallow minds, unforgiving timid-hearts and promiscous tendencies., that are to blame.
Just like Adam and Eve, you are the architect of your own pain.
I can preach to you on forgiving and understanding your partner, i can talk about being secure about your partner and relationship (trust me, i learnt that the hard way), i can start a lecture on supporting your partner, the role of finance in romance. I can choose to do all that but i'd rather not. I prefer to lay down the facts in a relationship, hard and cold..
Understand this;
1) If You come into the relationship expecting ur partner to make you happy, be perfect and with your fairytale idiosyncrasies; YOU WILL BE DISAPPOINTED, YOUR HEART WILL CRASH and THE PIECES WILL BE MICROSCOPIC in nature. The earlier you realize that people will screw up and hurt you, even if they love you; the better for you! Nothing good comes easy and without pain. To get the juice out, there must be a squeeze. Coach yourself to be humane to erring partners.
2) If You take on a full time job, marking, monitoring, supervising your partner's activities through a rifle scope, ready to gun down any suspicious rival; YOUR RELATIONSHIP will spiral downwards and crash so fast your head will spin, even Humpty-Dumpty will be amazed by the fall! No human enjoys being under suspicion, no human will tolerate for long 24hrs survelliance by their partners. Confidence comes from knowing your partner trusts you.
3) If You share your problems with your emotionally-damaged single/hooked friends, expect the counsel of Ahitophel, no more, no less! A chronically sick doctor cannot treat a sick patient . Look for friends in healthy relationships and ask for counsel.
4) If You spend time caring more about people's opinions about your relationship,
Than working on the deficiencies, you need to question your emotional sanity. Only you and your partner know where it hurts, where you both have been and are going to. Humans are manipulative in nature and can tongue-lash your relationship out of jealousy, frustration, etc. Protect what you have! Keep your issues, private in both words and conduct.
5) If you leave your partner because you met someone seemingly ''better'', Your expectations are bound to be cut short badly. In a world of uncertainties, that would be a most drastic move to be regretted. Some humans are superficial, attractive on the outside; shallow on the inside! Not to sound mean; painted Sepulchres. character and outward appearance are on two different levels.
6) Know when What You feel is a crush, a basic attraction/fondness and when You are in love.. Know the difference, understand the difference!
7) know what you can handle and stick to it. if Distance, finance and age difference is an important consideration for you, stick to it. If however you choose to compromise a bit, stick to your compromise!
8) If you take an open wound from a previous relationship into the next one, chances are, you will not heal. It would escalate from a simple wound to a huge sore, next thing you find yourself blaming the entire generation of the opposite sex for your frustration. Your partner cannot compensate for what your ex did. They should not pay for the crime They didnot commit.. Forgive, Let it go before you mingle again.
9) Stay friends with your EXs, if its possible. No matter how messy the break up was, Forgive whatever needs to be forgiven and stay friends with them. You may need them someday, they may need you.
Finally,
A Friend after my own heart, Jay, says all the time..
''Before you find happiness, you may have to meet the wrong people with beat-down egoistic thought-lines, you may even meet a few jerks, kiss a few frogs; but dont let it reduce your standards, raise your bars instead, stay strong and humane, Love is real, it is a beautiful thing.!''
Cupid isnt stupid after all..
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
The History Behind HipHop; (LuciFer; an archangel of Music)
((Luke 10: 18; 1s 14: 12 -14; Ez 28: 11 - 19; Matt 16:23; Exodus 24:10))
The power of music cannot be overemphasized. There had been mind-boggling instances
in biblical history, where music was used as a weapon, the fall of the wall of Jericho, The army lead by Jehosaphat, David the personal Ministrel of Saul etc.
To fully understand the foundations of music, you need to know that satan was a minister of music.
In heaven, Lucifer was termed the shining one
he was adorned with precious stones, he was different from other Cherubs, he had musical pipes that ran from his bowels (Ezekiel 28 :13). He was anointed to praise, He was the only anointed cherub that walked on the fiery stones of sapphire; this was where God's feet rested (as in Exodus 24:10). He was known as the ''son of Dawn'' (Is 14:12). It is recorded severally in Revelations that the Angels and 24 Elders bowed in praise in the mornings and evenings.
Lucifer was anointed a covering cherub. Then Pride crept because of his splendour and he sought to raise himself up like God. to raise his throne above the Stars of God, to sit on the Mount of Assembly. (Ez 28 : 15-17; Is 14: 13-15).
He was Cast down. (Luke 10:18).
Understand the devices of the enemy, he works as a negative imitation of Christ. The Bible records that the enemy roams LIKE a roaring lion looking for whom to devour; Keyword being LIKE. A negative imitation of THE Lion of the tribe of Judah. Christ seeks to set free, satan seeks to bound. Therefore for every positive Christian thing, there is a negative. We need to understand this as christians; the devil knows the power of worship, he was the angel-in-charge of Exaltation. He knows the power of music so he brewed a negative equivalent of worship. Music that seeks not to glorify God but to standardize flesh. Music that paints violence, immorality,hate, dissension, drug abuse. Music to counter worship. It started off as heavy metal/ Rock, the audience was limited. The black people was doing ghetto music, singing about freedom, social injustice, love, work, family, having a better life.
It dawned on satan, that his music did not capture everybody. He sort a music that could cut across race, skin colour (just like Christian music does). Music that could capture old and young, black and white; thus the birth of HipHop.. He penetrated the church and sort out children who grew up singing in choir, they sold out,fame in exchange to propel this music, that glorifies violence, drug abuse, immorality, revenge and music has a way of penetrating a man's subconsciousness. Hiphop today, is used as vile weapon to tear down the pillars of morals, seeping through cracks in the walls of society's values and morals.
We ve had instances of
John Lennon, more appalling is Lady Gaga in ''Judas'',
Dirty Dozen (''D-12''), Bone Thugs 'n' Harmony e.t.c.
There is ongoing speculation that the hiphop music industry is Illuminati-controlled.
Hiphop used to be about Social Injustice, Family Life, Peace, love, Freedom, having a better life..
Today its about Violence, sex, drug abuse, crime, hate, Misogyny. And the artistes are role models for the young..
Let this be a wake up call to revolutionalize HipHop culture, from propagation of evil to good..
(Please, Drop your Comment Below)
The power of music cannot be overemphasized. There had been mind-boggling instances
in biblical history, where music was used as a weapon, the fall of the wall of Jericho, The army lead by Jehosaphat, David the personal Ministrel of Saul etc.
To fully understand the foundations of music, you need to know that satan was a minister of music.
In heaven, Lucifer was termed the shining one
he was adorned with precious stones, he was different from other Cherubs, he had musical pipes that ran from his bowels (Ezekiel 28 :13). He was anointed to praise, He was the only anointed cherub that walked on the fiery stones of sapphire; this was where God's feet rested (as in Exodus 24:10). He was known as the ''son of Dawn'' (Is 14:12). It is recorded severally in Revelations that the Angels and 24 Elders bowed in praise in the mornings and evenings.
Lucifer was anointed a covering cherub. Then Pride crept because of his splendour and he sought to raise himself up like God. to raise his throne above the Stars of God, to sit on the Mount of Assembly. (Ez 28 : 15-17; Is 14: 13-15).
He was Cast down. (Luke 10:18).
Understand the devices of the enemy, he works as a negative imitation of Christ. The Bible records that the enemy roams LIKE a roaring lion looking for whom to devour; Keyword being LIKE. A negative imitation of THE Lion of the tribe of Judah. Christ seeks to set free, satan seeks to bound. Therefore for every positive Christian thing, there is a negative. We need to understand this as christians; the devil knows the power of worship, he was the angel-in-charge of Exaltation. He knows the power of music so he brewed a negative equivalent of worship. Music that seeks not to glorify God but to standardize flesh. Music that paints violence, immorality,hate, dissension, drug abuse. Music to counter worship. It started off as heavy metal/ Rock, the audience was limited. The black people was doing ghetto music, singing about freedom, social injustice, love, work, family, having a better life.
It dawned on satan, that his music did not capture everybody. He sort a music that could cut across race, skin colour (just like Christian music does). Music that could capture old and young, black and white; thus the birth of HipHop.. He penetrated the church and sort out children who grew up singing in choir, they sold out,fame in exchange to propel this music, that glorifies violence, drug abuse, immorality, revenge and music has a way of penetrating a man's subconsciousness. Hiphop today, is used as vile weapon to tear down the pillars of morals, seeping through cracks in the walls of society's values and morals.
We ve had instances of
John Lennon, more appalling is Lady Gaga in ''Judas'',
Dirty Dozen (''D-12''), Bone Thugs 'n' Harmony e.t.c.
There is ongoing speculation that the hiphop music industry is Illuminati-controlled.
Hiphop used to be about Social Injustice, Family Life, Peace, love, Freedom, having a better life..
Today its about Violence, sex, drug abuse, crime, hate, Misogyny. And the artistes are role models for the young..
Let this be a wake up call to revolutionalize HipHop culture, from propagation of evil to good..
(Please, Drop your Comment Below)
Thursday, January 14, 2010
'' THE SANCTITY OF SEX! '' Your own opinion is required.. Leave a comment with ur name)
Okay, so this is a sensitive topic!
There are hardly any relationship devoid of sex and all it's 'appearances'. Some say it merely spices up the relationship, others say it's a proof of the 'love' in d relationship, to yet another set of people, it's just a gratification of surging hormones. But the naked truth still remains; God provided sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage! Premarital sex is sin, it's called 'FORNICATION'. The bible tells us that every other sin is sin outside the body but the sin of sexual immorality is sin against the body; desecrating the temple of the Holy Spirit. This is NOT to judge anyone but to address an 'issue' dat 10 out of 12 'unmarried' youths and adults too are actively involved in. We can try to cover it up all we like, we can try to make it seem as trivial and unimportant as possible. 1Cor 6:12- 20 says it all. You were bought wit a price, therefore Honor God wit your body.
So often i ask myself why God created sex hormones and gave it to us @ puberty? Why didn't he just make it available to married folks only? Why did He give us something so overcoming and definitely uncontrollable and still ask us to abstain?
In a world dat has clearly justified sex before marriage. It takes lots and lots of grace. It's a huge sacrifice lol. Yes it is!
I can go on and on all day long about why we should challenge ourselves to abstain 4m premarital sex and strive even if it means falling, dusting ourselves and getting up still! But i'd give d podium to the readers to comment on their own UNBIASED opinions on the ''SANCTITY OF SEX''.. What's ur stand on SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?
Drop a comment and pls with your name, let's honestly discuss dis issue and PLEASE don't point fingers. No one is perfect, we can get inspiration from each other.
Thank you,
afy
There are hardly any relationship devoid of sex and all it's 'appearances'. Some say it merely spices up the relationship, others say it's a proof of the 'love' in d relationship, to yet another set of people, it's just a gratification of surging hormones. But the naked truth still remains; God provided sex to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage! Premarital sex is sin, it's called 'FORNICATION'. The bible tells us that every other sin is sin outside the body but the sin of sexual immorality is sin against the body; desecrating the temple of the Holy Spirit. This is NOT to judge anyone but to address an 'issue' dat 10 out of 12 'unmarried' youths and adults too are actively involved in. We can try to cover it up all we like, we can try to make it seem as trivial and unimportant as possible. 1Cor 6:12- 20 says it all. You were bought wit a price, therefore Honor God wit your body.
So often i ask myself why God created sex hormones and gave it to us @ puberty? Why didn't he just make it available to married folks only? Why did He give us something so overcoming and definitely uncontrollable and still ask us to abstain?
In a world dat has clearly justified sex before marriage. It takes lots and lots of grace. It's a huge sacrifice lol. Yes it is!
I can go on and on all day long about why we should challenge ourselves to abstain 4m premarital sex and strive even if it means falling, dusting ourselves and getting up still! But i'd give d podium to the readers to comment on their own UNBIASED opinions on the ''SANCTITY OF SEX''.. What's ur stand on SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE?
Drop a comment and pls with your name, let's honestly discuss dis issue and PLEASE don't point fingers. No one is perfect, we can get inspiration from each other.
Thank you,
afy
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE.
I've grown tired and increasingly irritated @ all the whining and non-relenting cacophony of heartbroken males, who complain bitterly of their ex- (swindlers and fraudsters) girlfriends. It's become common to generalize and term all girls as golddiggers and desperately money-loving.
Few weeks ago, I heard a couple of pathetic males having a conversation that a girl would date a certified total loser provided he's got the dough to spend.
A girl would swallow any disrespect/crap thrown @her as long d money keeps coming. Girls love money, so just chase money and girls would chase u, and all d infernal bla bla bla..
Only Recently i was asked my opinion on 'NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE'.. Surprisingly my answer was NO COMMENTS..
NO COMMENTS because it could take all day to explain that CERTAINLY/SURELY/DEFINITELY, ABSOLUTELY.. Romance cannot thrive without Finance!
You cannot completely seperate romance and finance! where your treasure is (finance), there also will your heart be (romance).
When you'r wooing that girl of your dreams, you lavish her with gifts, not because you wanna buy her over, but because you want to show her how much u care for her, how far you'r willing to go to have her. That is romance tied to your finances.
Romance is a two-way channel of care and love between TWO individuals.. It's goes both ways and is not left to the guy to be the romantic in a relationship
. The lady must also dish out her own quota of romance, because contrary to the macho, hard exterior of the male species, dere's a tender, helpless little boy craving inwardly for love and attention. In other words, men love to be petted and loved too.
MY STAND ON NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE
The guys; A girl wants to be cared for and pampered. You ought to be concerned with the financial status of your girl. Be there for her when she's broke, surprise her with little gifts, hang out with her. Once in a while, according to your pocket take her on a weekend vacation to somewhere exotic. Yes, 9ja boys i'm also talkin to you.. Plan a weekend @ some closeby exotic city, surprise her with it.
However since a relationship is a two way thing, insist on her being there for u during your downtimes. Insist she gets u a recharge card once in a while, dat doesn't make u less of a man, it only convinces u further that she's with u not because of your money.
If she's the hand-clenching type, ask her wat she wants for Christmas, valentine and also tell her what u want. Teach her the art of giving.
The mistake most men make is shouldering all the responsibilities of the girl.. It's a relationship not marriage. You don't have to pay for every hair do or manicure she gets! Give her financial independence by insisting she shoulders some of her responsibilites herself.
Financial independence won't make her disrespect u, it only makes her appreciate your worth cos she realizes it must be killing you to give out hard earned money for nail polish coated nails and hairstyles dat don't last 2weeks. However guys, invest in her looks!!! Very important, that u invest in her looks. U sure do want to show her off to your friends looking trendy and chic. Finally, don't be deceived by a girl who tells u she's too poor to give a gift, cos the art of giving isn't limited by unavailability of finances. It's not the gift but the thought and manner of giving that matters.. And don't think that you can own a girl by just showering her with gifts and money, u'll shoulder every financial responsibility and still she'll abandon u so quickly your head will spin. You establish a long lasting channel with her when she reciprocates and contributes her own quota too.. Where her treasure is, that's where her heart will be!
To the ladies: be there for your man through his down times. It's not a period to whine and complain about ur semi-new hair-do dat needs a retouch or ur long@ss finger nails dat can definitely do without manicure, or how d clothes u got d previous week just got so old and worn even the poor wouldn't accept them. And it's definitely not the time to jump from one spendthrift man to another.. Stand by your man, assist him in whatever way u can. He will bounce back and love you silly! Trust me, it works. Surprise him with little gifts, a designer tie, a cologne, a perfumes, inner wears are gifts dat can break barriers in a man's heart! Call him up and just take him out to dinner with d bill on you! Surprise him with a trip to the movies. Cook a delicious meal for him. Spoil him a little (ummm just make sure he's also spoiling you BIG TIME so u don't nurture a parasite).
Finally Ladies, it's very important u appreciate deeply whatever financial 'assistance' ur partner gives u. Money, 'through honest means or dishonest means', isn't easy to come by.
Most men are emotionally attached to their bank accounts, u can't blame them cos they put in really long hours of hardwork to get paid.
I've been opportuned to honestly work and earn my own cash, you don't spend your pay money recklessly. Believe me u don't. The work experience has helped me appreciate my partner whenever he gives me a gift / money cos i know how much of a sacrifice it is to give out your hardearned cash.
With the romance and of course finance flowing both ways, noone would have the cause to call their partner a golddigger or fraudster..
PLEASE REMEMBER, ROMANCE CANNOT THRIVE WITHOUT FINANCE!
Few weeks ago, I heard a couple of pathetic males having a conversation that a girl would date a certified total loser provided he's got the dough to spend.
A girl would swallow any disrespect/crap thrown @her as long d money keeps coming. Girls love money, so just chase money and girls would chase u, and all d infernal bla bla bla..
Only Recently i was asked my opinion on 'NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE'.. Surprisingly my answer was NO COMMENTS..
NO COMMENTS because it could take all day to explain that CERTAINLY/SURELY/DEFINITELY, ABSOLUTELY.. Romance cannot thrive without Finance!
You cannot completely seperate romance and finance! where your treasure is (finance), there also will your heart be (romance).
When you'r wooing that girl of your dreams, you lavish her with gifts, not because you wanna buy her over, but because you want to show her how much u care for her, how far you'r willing to go to have her. That is romance tied to your finances.
Romance is a two-way channel of care and love between TWO individuals.. It's goes both ways and is not left to the guy to be the romantic in a relationship
. The lady must also dish out her own quota of romance, because contrary to the macho, hard exterior of the male species, dere's a tender, helpless little boy craving inwardly for love and attention. In other words, men love to be petted and loved too.
MY STAND ON NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE
The guys; A girl wants to be cared for and pampered. You ought to be concerned with the financial status of your girl. Be there for her when she's broke, surprise her with little gifts, hang out with her. Once in a while, according to your pocket take her on a weekend vacation to somewhere exotic. Yes, 9ja boys i'm also talkin to you.. Plan a weekend @ some closeby exotic city, surprise her with it.
However since a relationship is a two way thing, insist on her being there for u during your downtimes. Insist she gets u a recharge card once in a while, dat doesn't make u less of a man, it only convinces u further that she's with u not because of your money.
If she's the hand-clenching type, ask her wat she wants for Christmas, valentine and also tell her what u want. Teach her the art of giving.
The mistake most men make is shouldering all the responsibilities of the girl.. It's a relationship not marriage. You don't have to pay for every hair do or manicure she gets! Give her financial independence by insisting she shoulders some of her responsibilites herself.
Financial independence won't make her disrespect u, it only makes her appreciate your worth cos she realizes it must be killing you to give out hard earned money for nail polish coated nails and hairstyles dat don't last 2weeks. However guys, invest in her looks!!! Very important, that u invest in her looks. U sure do want to show her off to your friends looking trendy and chic. Finally, don't be deceived by a girl who tells u she's too poor to give a gift, cos the art of giving isn't limited by unavailability of finances. It's not the gift but the thought and manner of giving that matters.. And don't think that you can own a girl by just showering her with gifts and money, u'll shoulder every financial responsibility and still she'll abandon u so quickly your head will spin. You establish a long lasting channel with her when she reciprocates and contributes her own quota too.. Where her treasure is, that's where her heart will be!
To the ladies: be there for your man through his down times. It's not a period to whine and complain about ur semi-new hair-do dat needs a retouch or ur long@ss finger nails dat can definitely do without manicure, or how d clothes u got d previous week just got so old and worn even the poor wouldn't accept them. And it's definitely not the time to jump from one spendthrift man to another.. Stand by your man, assist him in whatever way u can. He will bounce back and love you silly! Trust me, it works. Surprise him with little gifts, a designer tie, a cologne, a perfumes, inner wears are gifts dat can break barriers in a man's heart! Call him up and just take him out to dinner with d bill on you! Surprise him with a trip to the movies. Cook a delicious meal for him. Spoil him a little (ummm just make sure he's also spoiling you BIG TIME so u don't nurture a parasite).
Finally Ladies, it's very important u appreciate deeply whatever financial 'assistance' ur partner gives u. Money, 'through honest means or dishonest means', isn't easy to come by.
Most men are emotionally attached to their bank accounts, u can't blame them cos they put in really long hours of hardwork to get paid.
I've been opportuned to honestly work and earn my own cash, you don't spend your pay money recklessly. Believe me u don't. The work experience has helped me appreciate my partner whenever he gives me a gift / money cos i know how much of a sacrifice it is to give out your hardearned cash.
With the romance and of course finance flowing both ways, noone would have the cause to call their partner a golddigger or fraudster..
PLEASE REMEMBER, ROMANCE CANNOT THRIVE WITHOUT FINANCE!
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